
Well, I guess I asked for this by having a heading here that says "Ask Me Anything." I might change that to something like "Ask Me Anything But Don't Expect an Answer to Some Questions." A person who understandably asked me to withhold their name sent me this…
When you write an obit about a friend of yours who's the same age as you like Gerry Conway, do you ever stop and think if that person's dying, how long do I have left?
Nope. Everyone's body is different. And when someone I know turns a hundred like Dick Van Dyke or Al Jaffee or (almost) Carl Barks or June Foray or my maternal grandmother, I don't subtract my age from theirs and think, "That's how long I have left," either. I think it's one of the dumber ways to look at life. I've also known people who thought — with a different number inserted — "My father died when he was 90 so I'll probably die when I'm 90."
I understand why some people wish they could know how much time they have left on this planet. It would make estate planning and a lot of other things easier…but unless a wise doctor tells you you have X months or years to live, that kind of thing is unknowable, And even wise doctors are sometimes wrong. (I won't even get into consideration of accidents and other causes of death that are even less predictable than natural causes that aren't predictable at all.)
Some folks I've known are just way too obsessed with that and I don't think that's good for your health. I'm thinking of one actor I know who, when he hit some arbitrary age, became incapable of conversation that didn't include phrases like, "Well, I won't be around to see that" or "Guess I'm not long for this world" or the ever-popular, "I'm just circling the drain." I wanted to slap the guy and yell, "Cut that out!" He did die about the time he was predicting but I think he almost talked himself into it.
His widow told me he stopped taking care of himself, stopped seeing his doctor and adopted a less-healthy lifestyle because "Why bother? You can't cheat death." Maybe not but you may be able to delay it for longer than you think. Or make better use of however much time you have left. Here's a thought I find very comforting…
My favorite Broadway musical, A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum, opened in New York on May 5, 1962. It was directed by the legendary director George Abbott and many of the reviews said things like, "Isn't it amazing that Mr. Abbott is still able to direct a musical at his age?" In 1962, his age was just shy of 75 years old.

But Forum wasn't the last play Mr. Abbott directed. A few months later, Never Too Late opened on Broadway, directed by George Abbott. It was followed by Fade Out, Fade In, which was followed by Flora the Red Menace, which was followed by Anya, which was followed by Help Stamp Out Marriage!, which was followed by Agatha Sue, I Love You, which was followed by How Now, Dow Jones, which was followed by The Education of H*Y*M*A*N K*A*P*L*A*N, which was followed by The Fig Leaves Are Falling, which was followed by a revival of Three Men on a Horse, which was followed by Norman, Is That You?, which was followed by Not Now, Darling, which was followed by a revival of The Pajama Game, which was followed by a revival of Where's Charley?, which was followed by Music Is, which was followed by a revival of On Your Toes, which was followed by Broadway, which was followed by another revival of Three Men on a Horse…
There was a point there where it appeared like every play George Abbott had ever directed, he was going to direct again.
On and on he went, well past the ones I just listed. Not all of those plays were hits. In fact, a lot of them lasted just a few nights..,but obviously, he was still functioning. Producers with a lot of money on the line kept entrusting their plays and investments to him. When I met him, George Abbott was a hundred and fucking six years old and he was in the process of directing a play, albeit from a wheelchair.
You have to wonder: All those people who acted likeA Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum in 1962 would probably be his last play…what did they think of this man's longevity? Well, we couldn't ask them. We couldn't ask them because they were all dead.
